Dwell On These Things

“He is such a slob.” “Why can’t he think of me for once?” “If he changes the channel one more time I’m going to scream!”

If you’ve been married for more than a day and a half you’ve had some annoying thoughts bounce around your head from time to time. I’m sure of it. But, is that where your mind camps? Is this your warm dwelling place where you hang out every day—thinking  negatively about your spouse?

The more we allow our mind to replay hurts and each tiny discretion, the more we wrap our hearts in a warm scarf and live in this unsightly home of discouragement. 

Being married isn’t easy. I don’t care who you are. Just know, if you ever meet someone who tells you, “Our marriage is perfect.” Run. They’re lying.

Take it from someone who has been divorced. I know just how fast those little irritations magically turn into divorce papers. It doesn’t take much. But, there is truth to be shared. An area that can help us women bring honor to the Lord in our marriage. It begins with a question.

What are you dwelling on?

When you think about your husband, what are the first thoughts that come to mind?  What is your mind’s dwelling place? Have you decorated your head with discouragement and wrong thinking about your husband? God’s word reminds us how to think. It’s a lesson that needs to be played out every single moment of every single day we walk out our marriage together.

Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9 NASB

 The Greek word for “dwell” is logizomai. It’s a verb that means to reckon, purpose, to account, to weigh.  What thoughts are rattling around in that pretty little head of yours?  Each thought about your husband is a seed you plant for future harvest.

The more selective you are with seeds, the more delighted you will be with the crop. –Max Lucado

Where have you staked out your land and camped out today? Why don’t you try living in the land of positive truths about your husband? Here’s a few of mine.

• He loves me.
• He loves our children.
• He supports my ideas and goals.
• He works very hard.

If you’re an overachiever, think of specific things. Here’s my example.

• He puts out my vitamins every morning and every night.
• He pays our bills and doesn’t complain.
• He tells me I’m beautiful.
• He holds my hand in the car.

Friends, there is no greater scripture verse to memorize and recite than Philippians 4:8-9. It’s truth serum to a hurting relationship. If you need a daily reminder, write it down on a yellow sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror. I’ve done that before!

Whatever fills our minds will come out in our actions and decisions. – Michael Yousoff

Don’t be fooled. There is no greater feather in Satan’s cap than to destroy your marriage. Remember, our marriage is a crystal clear picture of Christ and the church. Now, put those pictures all over the world and give them motion—can you imagine how much a godly marriage infuriates the enemy of our souls? Would you like to make a difference for the kingdom of God today? Love your husband. Take your thoughts captive and abide in Philippians 4:8-9- a stone fortress of truth. Whatever is positively true about your man—dwell there.

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