Then I began writing and comparing. I told myself, You’re online to gather solid statistics and noteworthy New York Times articles to cite for this book. Research. That’s what you’re doing.
Sure, it began innocently enough. But, in a matter of nanoseconds my eyes were gazing on bedazzled websites and mesmerized by the words of an INCREDIBLE author…or an AMAZINGLY GIFTED blogger, or a ministry leader’s EPIC take on scripture that the Holy Spirit has never eluded to me.
The whispers in my head trailed quickly to my heart and their conversation began, What are you thinking? Women won’t want to read this book you’re writing. What mom wants to be thought of as “mean”? What woman besides YOU needs encouragement all the time?
But, it’s not the mean you think. Loving boundaries! That’s what I’m writing about. Encouragement for women is always needed.
Whatever. Still, there’s no way you’ll be able to convey your message like she does. By the way, that gal over there…her book is better than yours and that other gorgeous gal? Her blog is not only better—women read it. Which means God must love her more.
Have you girls ever been there?
Maybe you aren’t struggling with comparing yourself to writers, perhaps your comparison has to do with watching someone else’s well behaved straight A student who doesn’t have a saucy tongue or sassy mouth, or putting your eyes on your girlfriend’s size 3 jeans you couldn’t squeeze into as a toddler? Could it be you’re on Pinterest looking at all those incredible kitchen updates and wondering why your husband won’t work just a little bit harder to make your dream home come true?
I’ve been there, too. Jesus met me face to face this morning. I’ve learned to seek Him when I begin to feel like this –even when I fail at listening sometimes. His Word washes away the sticky lies that threaten to pull me down.
I will rejoice greatly in the Lord,
My soul will exult in my God;
For He has clothed me with garments of salvation,
He has wrapped me with a robe of righteousness,
As a bridegroom decks himself with a garland,
And as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. – Isaiah 61:10
Verses that remind me not to put my eyes anywhere else but on the truth that I’m loved more than ever by my Savior –this very minute—right where I am. And, if that weren’t enough, the words in my Jesus Calling this morning sealed the deal:
“Stop judging and evaluating yourself, for this is not your role. Above all, stop comparing yourself with other people. This produces feelings of pride or inferiority; sometimes, a mixture of both. I lead each of My children along a path that is uniquely tailor-made for him or her. Comparing is not only wrong; it is also meaningless.
Don’t look for affirmation in the wrong places: your own evaluations, or those of other people. The only source of real affirmation is My unconditional Love. “
Do you need a gentle reminder today that you’re LOVED beyond measure? STOP looking anywhere else but up. Jesus should be our focus. He is the only One we should desire to please. I LOVE what author, Donna Partow says, “You do not have to be perfect to become a vessel God can use.”
Friends, don’t drink the poison of comparison today. It’s the first step to coveting. How about we both head over to the refreshing Living Waters for our truth today?