I have no idea how I stumbled upon Cindy Beall’s website, but, I’m grateful I did. She’s an author who has a gift of words that reaches into the hearts of hurting families today. Her book, Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken is testimony to that. She’s experienced the broken places of infidelity, and a husband who has been involved with pornography. Yet, she leaned on a God who desires to make “all things new” in all of us, even our marriages.
If you’re hurting from the betrayal of a spouse who’s left you for another, or if you’re struggling with a husband who is using Facebook and the Internet in precarious ways, this book is for you. Cindy is transparent and painfully honest as she shares the hurts from a husband who strayed, and as is God’s way, He can breathe life into dead things.
Since, I’m still in Nashville, I asked Cindy to share a little bit more with all of you. If you’re needing to find forgiveness and restoration in your relationships, you’ll be moved by her words, her book, and the timely lesson much needed in our marriages today.
My Own Personal D-Day
No one thinks their life will resemble an episode of Jerry Springer. We don’t grow up and dream of being humiliated in front of the entire world. We know it happens to other people but never to us. But on February 19, 2002, I found myself starring in my very worst nightmare.
My husband, Chris, came home from work almost as soon as he’d gone. He’d only been in his new pastoral role at our church for six weeks so I definitely didn’t expect his presence that morning. When he walked through our front door, I was surprised. He looked like he’d seen a ghost. He asked if we could talk which really meant that he would be talking and I would be listening.
The next several minutes consisted of him confessing things to me that you only read about in books or see on TV. He bared his soul and told me that he’d been unfaithful to me with numerous women in numerous places at numerous times. As if that information wasn’t enough, he finished with the kicker: One of the women was pregnant and he was pretty sure the baby was his.
I didn’t understand how we got to this point. After sitting in a stunned silence, I asked a few questions. I finished with “why did you do this?” and he responded, “Because I’m addicted to pornography.”
That was my life. In an instant. I went from unpacking boxes in our new home to having my future altered within 60 seconds. I knew immediately that I would never be the same again. I was completely aware that my comfortable existence on earth was over. I never thought these kinds of things really happened in real life.
But they most certainly do.
Couples are being plagued with betrayal in their own marriages every single day. Infidelity is rampant. Pornography addiction is either accepted or ignored. Infidelity and pornography have been glamorized and joked about on TV and on the big screen, but there is very little about it that is funny.
I can’t even begin to tell you in one blog post all that God has done to heal, redeem, and restore my marriage over the last 9 ½ years. My first book, Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken, released just this month and is the place where I laid everything out on the line in hopes to help others who will walk this unfortunate path. Not only that, buy my prayer is that any person who reads my book will be inspired and encouraged because we serve an awesome God who still performs miracles today.
My marriage is living proof.
Cindy Beall is a writer, mentor and speaker to women. She and her husband, Chris, speak openly about their difficult journey through Chris’ infidelity and pornography addiction that nearly destroyed their marriage and ministry. Through God’s grace they have inspired thousands of couples and have returned to full-time ministry where Chris serves as the Oklahoma City Campus Pastor at LifeChurch.tv and Cindy leads the women’s ministry on their campus. Her first book, Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken, released July 1, 2011, with Harvest House Publishers. www.cindybeall.com